Relationship Issues - Best Remedy

This post can be termed as sequel to my post on relationship yesterday.

Normally people have complains to me that I only tell the problems in chart but no remedy or gemstone. I have clarified my views on remedy/gemstones much earlier - https://www.astrosaxena.com/remexp and I stand on those grounds still.

Still, today I try to tell the best remedy or gemstone which can resolve all your problems. So, let me know how many people can afford to perform that remedy or wear that gemstone after reading this post.

Again, it is in matters of relationship only because in Career matters, if you put efforts continuously then sooner or later you will get some good results. Like, I think I have the most trashed 10th house in my chart with Rahu-Saturn in Leo, Mars 8th aspect on 10th house and 10th lord sitting 6 houses away in 3rd house. Still, I managed to have a Career for myself.

But it becomes difficult in relationship because duality gets involved. Wherever 2 people are involved, there will be friction or conflict. It is the basic nature or result of duality. Normally, we focus on husband-wife or boy friend-girl friend relation but take any relation in your life and you will find some friction in it at some point of time. Like, I know about myself that I always had differences of opinion with almost everyone in my family and friends. I am almost an out-caste as I talk with selected few people only out of my own will. For others, I only respond.

So, all relations are difficult but love/romantic relations look more difficult after a certain time as we can see a way-out of it. Because we can't take divorce from parents or siblings, we try to find ways to make it work. But in marriage/relation, as soon as the conflict arises, an option of divorce/break-up automatically comes in mind. It is none's fault. Because option is there, it is bound to come in mind. Now, coming back to our best remedy/gemstone.

As marriage remains a social institution, we have to look at how marriages used to last long up to the year 2000. One of my friend's parents recently celebrated 40 years of marriage and my own maternal grandparents had a 55 years long marriage. So, what was the key then which we are missing now? That key is your best remedy or gemstone.

Of course, those people would also have had all the malefic planets impacting relationship houses/planets, paap kartari yoga, mangalik-non-mangalik issue, Saturn impacting everywhere in chart. Then how come they survived all these impacts of malefic planets? We can't say that Saturn is only jealous towards people got married after 2000. So except 1 or 2 cases of widowhood, we rarely heard any case of divorce in those days. And widowhood is also something which is not dependent on marriage. If a person is supposed to die then he will die, no matter he is married or not. It is extreme foolishness which we hear that because of getting married to this/that person, he/she died.

Anyways, here we come back to the main point which I raise again and again. Till 2000, one party to the marriage remained subservient to another and in 99.99% of cases, it was woman who remained subservient to man. When one party is not even allowed to raise her voice in marriage then where is the question of any dispute or conflicts. And to imagine about filing divorce was a big joke in those times.

Now in changed times in 21st century, we can't expect that subservient attitude from woman. When they have got education and career like Man, they have equal right in relationship. Now for the 1st time in societies like India, relationship is between equals and this is where the problem is coming. Man ego is unable to give woman the equal right or equal say in marriage. And actually, they should have higher say now because let's face it, Man is beneficiary here. Woman is leaving her family and changing her whole identity for Man. So, it is obvious that she should get her due place. I know that many of my female ex-colleagues used to take care of home & career responsibilities both. So, under these circumstances, they must get a higher place in relationship than man as they are looking after both responsibilities simultaneously. This is something I discussed here - https://www.astrosaxena.com/marriageissues.

Now, as we can't expect woman to be subservient to man, the only way to save institution of marriage (which is rapidly falling) is by Man appreciating the contribution of Woman in family. I understand that it will be too much for Man's ego to become subservient to Woman but even if they are appreciative of the contribution of Woman in Family then lots of issues will be resolved. As Woman has become more masculine in changing times due to the responsibilities they undertake, it is for Man to adopt certain feminine qualities within himself. Something which I discussed here - https://www.astrosaxena.com/relations2 . Now, we can't expect any side to be dominating or subservient to another. Now, we are entering in times where relationship has to be a balanced one (Libra).

So, your only remedy or gemstone is awareness or mindfulness. Be aware and mindful of the changing social dynamics. Be aware and mindful every moment as to what your spouse is bringing into marriage. Normally, once people get married or get into relationship, they start taking their partner for granted. Be aware and mindful that none would like such neglect and if they leave you then you will be at zero again. So, this is the only remedy or gemstone I know. Be aware and mindful 24x7.

Before expressing your anger or frustration, get aware that your anger can finish your marriage. Be aware that all your religions, which you are so proud of, are dead against Anger. They treat anger like a poison. Your anger, frustration, disputes and conflicts only end up in destroying your own life. Be aware of what you are doing 24x7 and you will be avoiding many unpleasant circumstances.

All these posts on Relationship are also result of my own awareness and retrospection during this retrograde season and Venus difficult transit through Cancer to Virgo where I talked more with myself as and when I got angry rather than projecting anger on others. That made me to go deeper and deeper in understanding my own mistakes and drawbacks. Carl Jung said that everything that irritates you about others, can lead to an understanding about self. So, if your partner is able to irritate you then ask yourself where did it get hurt within you? Mistake is within you that's why someone could disturb you. So perform this remedy and wear this gem of Awareness and Mindfulness 24x7 and you will be fine -https://www.astrosaxena.com/mind.

Coming back to normal remedy or gemstones - Do you really feel that you wearing a gem can change behavior of your spouse? I mean, seriously? Or you just want to hope against hope? I tell you why people are fond of these remedies and gemstones?

Because it is easy to spend money once in some worship or in wearing gemstone rather than being aware of your own mistakes and improving yourself. What I am giving you is 24x7 remedy. You have to perform it every moment. Who cares dude? It is easier to wear a gem and blame the other person.

Unless the whole humanity changes its way of thinking and mindset through meditation, no other remedy can help you. So, this is the only remedy I know which can resolve all your problems. Be Meditative, Be Aware, Be Mindful. Let me know how many can afford it?

Rest all is business. Thanks,

SPB