Lack of Relationship Capacity

This post can be considered as sequel of yesterday's live session on relationship. I always kept controversial or unconventional views on this topic and I would keep them unless and until someone proves me wrong.

I again say that relationship/marriage is going to be difficult for everyone, no matter who is the person? There is no good chart for relationship. And this is what I want people to be aware of. If you are aware that there is a pothole on the way then there is no chance that you will still fall into it. So, I am just trying my best to make people aware of the challenges relationship can pose to them and how they can negotiate with those challenges? I again say that if you are living a dream that after getting married your life will be all set and there will be no issues then you have no idea what is coming towards you in the name of relation/marriage.

These are two articles I wrote some time ago https://www.astrosaxena.com/relations2 and https://www.astrosaxena.com/relatinsight in which I tried to give some astrological and social reasons behind troublesome relationships. Again, these are very few reasons and each case can be different & people can have unique reasons. But these are the common reasons I saw from my consultations.

Also, one of the foundational reason behind troublesome relationship is "Lack of Relationship Capacity". Relationship Capacity is something which develops in a child when he sees his parents in a good relationship. If a child has just seen the parents fighting and shouting with each other then what you are expecting from that child in his relations later in life? He will learn and take everything from his parents, right? So, if mother-father are not in good relation then it is "very rare" that their child will have any good relation. And now it is not the mistake of parents also because they have taken these traits from their parents. So, only resolution in this situation is when one generation in between this link comes which is evolved or aware. If someone is aware and evolved to understand that there is a pattern which is being followed in matters of relationship in family from grandparents to parents and now to himself then there is a possibility that he could recognize the mistake and start his efforts towards correcting that mistake so that at least future generations won't have to follow the similar pattern in relationship. This is the only "very rare" exceptional case where a person can still have average relation life despite coming from dysfunctional families.

But as I said that there are many other reasons which I tried to state in articles.

Also, some people were confused when I said that D9 has nothing to do with marriage and 2 charts will never match. Well, here are the reasons why I said that https://www.astrosaxena.com/d9lifepath and https://www.astrosaxena.com/chartmatch. Basically, when I am saying that astrology itself has nothing to do with marriage as an institution then it automatically covers D9 and chart matching too as these are also part of astrology only.

Last but not the least, relation/marriage is a continuous work in progress. If someone is thinking that he got married and job is over then you are here for a big surprise. One is supposed to work on maintaining a good relationship on daily basis. If someone is not willing to give that time and energy then relationship is not your cup of tea.

I hope you find these articles helpful and in next session we will talk about "how much astrology can help in relationship matters?" - https://www.astrosaxena.com/astromarriage1.

Thanks,

SPB